“When your child walks in the room, do your eyes light up? That’s what they’re looking for.” — Toni Morrison
“Your eyes should light up when your child enters the room.” — Maya Angelo
As parents, we hold immense power in our gaze. It’s not just about seeing our children; it’s about how we see them. Our eyes can convey love, acceptance, and validation. When our little ones step into our presence, their hearts seek that radiant spark—the assurance that they matter, that they are cherished.
The Magic of Recognition: Imagine the scene: the door swings open, and there they are—our children, with their messy hair, curious eyes, and boundless energy. In that split second, we have a choice. Do we glance up absentmindedly, lost in our thoughts with things to do, or calls to take, or thinking – Uff! Dirty shoes are again on the carpet? Or do we pause, lock eyes, and let our faces light up like a thousand stars?
Recognition is the magic word. It’s not merely seeing their physical form; it’s acknowledging their very essence. When our eyes light up, we tell them, “You are seen. You are valued. You belong here.”
The Ripple Effect: But why does it matter? This simple act of illumination sets off a beautiful ripple effect:
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- Confidence: Our children absorb our reactions like sponges. When they witness our eyes alight with joy, they internalize a sense of worthiness. They learn to trust their place in the world.
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- Connection: Our gaze bridges the gap between us. It says, “I am here with you.” In those shared glimmers, we build bonds that withstand storms.
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- Courage: When our eyes light up, we become their cheerleaders. We whisper, “You’ve got this!” And armed with our belief, they take leaps—on the playground, in friendships, and through life’s twists.
The Invitation: So, let’s make it a practice. When our children burst into the room, let our eyes be the welcome mat. Let them say: “You are my joy.”, “You are my treasure.”, “You are my heart walking outside my body.”
And as we do, we gift them a legacy—a legacy of love that will echo through generations.